“A person’s word is sometimes nothing more than a weapon. A slip of the tongue sometimes as sharp as a sword can leave a person feeling weak, emotional, and powerless. Words such as cow, fat, disgusting, ugly, and many more cling to a person as if they had been painted with glue. These words act like a toxin, breaking down and slowly killing a person’s personality, emotions, and spirit. I myself have felt the sting of these harmful words far too many times. From friends, family, and strangers. Each time hurt worse than those before. The hurt built up and slowly broke me down. Emotions turned physical, tears became scars, and scars became stories. Those stories will be with me forever, a reminder every day of those harsh words cast from others.” – Chasitystar
“This is my second pregnancy and even though I’m usually quite unphased by things people say to me. But pregnancy is an emotional time and frankly people get dumb when talking to pregnant women it seems. During my first I kept having people tell me I was to skinny to be pregnant. Even though to me and my family it was clearly baby bump, people who didn’t know me kept commenting on how their tummies were bigger. So frustrating and dishearting to a first time mom. And then and now, once I started really showing I showed big! Always getting asked if is twins or if my due date was closer than it is. It’s just the fact that you’re experiencing such a major body change it can be emotionally hard to deal with comments once in a while. It’s not exactly an easy change to have happen to your body no matter how happy and joyful the reason for it is. For me it can change day to day, person to person. For me this pregnancy, with the fact that I have a toddler already and that we’ve had a stressful year, it’s the you look tired or stressed comments that get to me. Trust me, it’s something I know. I’m exhausted and this has been a hard year and it shows and frankly I don’t need reminded.” – Lynde
“A couple of my words I chose that hurt the worst was “pizza face”. When I was growing up my face broke out really bad and it didn’t matter what I did to make the blemishes better. They were always there and they were always bad. Kids called me pizza face because my face looked like pepperoni pizza.” – Gizzy
Chelsea’s “Words Hurt” was one I know was very personal for her. We’ve talked some before about the challenges she has faced. As for my thoughts, she has proven herself quite tough, creative, and willing to do what she needs to. She’s a survivor as are all of the women in this project.
“Words can hurt, because, unlike physical wounds, words attack a person’s mind and heart. Growing up as a lesbian at a conservative Christian high school, I have learned the power of words. Whether words are said directly, or indirectly, words can be just as deadly as a gun, or a knife. So, be careful what you say.” -Chelsea
“Selfish; a word some may not see as hurtful, but when you consider yourself a caring, thoughtful, and nice person, it does sting. Sure someone may seem selfish at one point of time, but before you call them selfish because they didn’t give you, or forgot something for you, consider they just forgot. Mostly because that person have been giving & thinking of others too, and maybe by the time they’ve gotten to you their brain is just all amuck, and forgot, not on purpose, just simply forgot that one thing. Before you say, “oh you’re so selfish, how could you forget about me?” Think of what they’ve already done for you. There is a difference from being plain selfish (thinking completely of oneself) and simply forgetting or needing that one thing, you may have wanted too, to themselves, because that person has already given so much time to help others, and to help you, from the goodness of their heart just about every day. That is a person who deserves a break, some time for just them. Not because they are selfish, but because if they don’t and continue to give and spread themselves thin, they could crack or lose themselves if they do not retract to time for them every once and a while. But no worries that selfless person you called selfish, will still come around, perhaps not as much as before, but will at least be there for you if you are down.
Remember, before you say someone if SELFISH, think are they like that ALL the time or have they given SELFLESSLY so much, really they just NEED a break for only a moment.” – Hilari
“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” This doesn’t hold true, as many times as you say it to yourself or others, words can hurt. Whether they be from someone else, or lies we tell ourselves, words strike deep in our most tender places and get lodged there. Sometimes the words that hit hardest are the lies we tell ourselves”
In early December I did the photography on a project called “Words Hurt.” Starting today, I will be posting images from that project along with a message from the models that participated in that particular set. I will be posting one set every other week until completion.
The “Words Hurt” project was created and directed by Breezy Hunt, who asked me to photograph the ideas for her.
The first image is the opening to the project and features Breezy as the model. Below the image, you can read her words describing the inspiration for such a thoughtful project.
I’m sure you have been called something that has truly affected you in some way. For example I was called a “bad mother” which to this day still upsets me and still pops in my head ever day. This was a very hard shoot to watch happen and hard for my models. I’m hoping everyone will learn something from this and stop calling people names. Because it can truly do damage. Remember the next time you go to call someone something before you call someone a name, how you felt when someone called you a name. This world has become to mean, and we all need to stop or we will be our own end. If you have an issue with any of the photos then move on to the next one. Don’t leave negative on these photos bc they were very personal for each model, bc they picked the words on them. Each word on their chest also had personal power to them, thus the reason their last photos are strong and wiping away the hurtful part. They also included personal stories of words that hurt. So be kind and remember to be so. – Breezy Hunt